January is almost over (impossible). If you set out this year with a goal or a word for the year, chances are that you’ve already slipped up and gone back to your old ways. đ
It’s normal but still frustrating! Youâre certainly not alone.
The research shows that by the end of January, 75% of people have already abandoned their goals.
You know itâs true. Just look at the gyms. They are packed the first two weeks of January and then itâs like the rapture occurs and everyone goes back to sleeping in and Netflix nights. Motivation sputters out. Old habits die hard. And we get busy doing what weâve always done.
Beyond the January fallout, less than 10% will eventually achieve the goal that mattered to them on January 1st.
Ugh. That sucks. The data matters but it doesnât get the final say in whether or not YOU will achieve your goals, Warrior.
To move beyond becoming a statistic, there’s a 95% probability you’ll achieve what matters most to you if you do these 4 things:
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Write down your goal.
The higher degree of specificity, the higher degree of probability. Goal gurus say to make it SMART (specific, measurable, attractive/achievable, relatable/realistic, + time-bound), and thatâs great if you can do that.
Sometimes, your goal is a direction. You donât know where you want to end up, but you know you need to shift your focus and attention.
To whatever degree youâre able, write it down. You can tighten it up over time, but literally writing it down gives you a 42% chance of now achieving that goal!
2. Enroll at least 3 supportive friends who will hold you to your goal.
Friend power is your superpower. And itâs exponentially better than willpower.
A few years ago I was trying to lose 10 pounds (freaking story of every womanâs life at some point, right?). I even had three girlfriends who were âinâ on it with me. We had Weigh-in Wednesdays, went on walks together, chose a reward for whoever lost the weight firstâŠAND cheated on wine nights together.
Guess how much weight I lost during those 9 months? Zero pounds. One friend actually gained a few pounds! Oops.
The problem wasnât the friends. It was that we co-signed on each otherâs B.S. week after week. Shoot, we even cheated on those wine nights together! Weâd weigh in then create reasons of why we werenât moving closer to our goals:
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it was my sonâs birthday and there was cake
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my husband forced that fourth piece of pizza in my mouth
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itâs my period and Iâm bloated (ok, thatâs legit!)
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it rained on Tuesday and I couldnât workout
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my scale sucks
We had reasons but no excuses for why the scale wasnât budging.
The key to this step is that your friends need to hold you to your commitment. They wonât co-sign on your B.S. They refuse to validate your excuses. They support your commitment by standing with youânot against youâto achieving what matters most to you.
With a written goal and three supportive friends, youâve now got a 65% chance to achieve your goal! Alright, Warrior! Letâs go.
3. Send progress reports to those 3 friends.
Checking in with how youâre doing is crucial. But you also need to be super honest about how itâs going.
To get what youâve never had, you have to do what youâve never done. When you do things youâve never done before (or at least arenât habits), youâre going to bump up against all kinds of barriers:
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self-limiting beliefs
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bad habits
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insecurities + fears
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inner dialogues that may sabotage your progress
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difficult emotions
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negative attitudes
âŠjust to name a few!
This is why your friends are your superpower. They can cheer you on, speak the truth in love (without co-signing on your B.S.), remind you of your commitment, and push you to stay the course.
Progress reports are also so valuable because they will show you how far youâve come.
When you do these first 3 practices, you now have a 76% chance to achieve your goal!
4. Set accountability appointments with a coach.
If youâre looking for a magic bullet, this last practice is the powerful punchâget a coach. Itâs a sure-fire way to get where you want to go.
When you do all 4 of these practices, there is a 95% chance youâll achieve your goal!
WHY??
The MAGIC is the combination of specificity, support, and structure that you get in a coaching relationship.
A certified coach has been trained to help you get from where you are to where you want to be. She knows how to guide you toward transformation. She has the tools and skills to help you move forward.
I tell my clients one of the key reasons that this piece unlocks a new level is because at the end of the day IâM AN OBJECTIVE PERSON IN YOUR LIFE! Your life doesnât have a direct impact on mine. With other relationships (ie your 3 supportive friendships), thereâs a direct behavior consequence and domino effect. Not so with your coach. I can stand with you in your commitment to achieve your goal, but I have a neutral emotional investment.
This is why coaching works.
It takes the 4 practices and streamlines them into your life in ways that help you work smarter, not harder. This is why we focus on coaching groups for women. It embeds these practices into the wholeness pathway and propels you to go further faster than you could on your own.
Check out how our coaching groups work. You wonât regret saying YES to joining the next group.
If you want to take immediate action toward your goals, sign up for our FREE âActivate Your Goalsâ challenge. Itâs a 3-part video series with short training videos, handouts, and customized action steps. Weâll guide you through a simple 1-2-3 coaching process so you can move forward to achieve what matters most to you.
SOURCES: studies by Dr. Gail Matthews at Dominican University of California and the Association for Talent Development